Loving Someone With Depression

Depression is hard on your soul. The best way to explain it if you see a bruise or scar on someone you would handle it with care. With depression your scars are in the inside, they're extremely painful, and you feel defeated, unworthy at times.

When dealing with someone like this. You have to love her differently, reassure her everyday that she’s a valuable being in your life. It’s like stroking someone’s ego, because there will be days she will feel not worthy.

Sometimes your good intentions may not always be the most helpful. It’s a battle, those around you feel it. They don’t know what to do, what to say, and how to say it.

Just let her know she’s not alone. She may push you away, isolate herself, she doesn’t want to burden you with her dark moments.

Remember the way she feels, has nothing to do with you, it’s her. If she decides to open up to you, just listen, no judgement, all she needs is a listening ear. She just wants to be heard. When she is finished talking, give her a hug, tell her you love her, be her rock.

These dark moments will come, and you may not be able to lead her out of the darkness, but stay there with her, until she is ready to lead herself out the tunnel of darkness.

Just remember it can be exhausting dealing with someone like this, and the tough love approach will not work. She will not suddenly become the person you want her to be, just because you're tired of dealing with her problems. It's a personal decision to walk away, if you feel it's too much for you to handle. BUT using the tough love method will not work on her it is unrealistic.

Also, remember she is more than just her depression, remember those things that made you love her. Just know your partners emotions may work differently from yours. Most of us are wired differently anyway.

Depression is definitely REAL!!!!!!!!!

What are your thoughts, would you date someone who suffers from depression? Or would it be just too much? Let me know your thoughts on it.

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